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Many entrepreneurs have big dreams of living a better life and many of them do one thing that stops them from achieving those dreams – self-sabotage.
Self-sabotage happens every time you play small or fear being visible.
It is also…
- worrying about being judged for who you are, what you do and what you charge.
- listening to your inner critic which stops you from stepping out of your comfort zone
- losing focus, procrastinating or succumbing to self-destructive habits that affect your wellbeing.
So how can you avoid self sabotage and empower yourself??
It’s all down to one thing – your mind. Unfortunately, your mind doesn’t care if you are happy, sad, rich or poor. Its only job is to keep you safe. So when you try your hardest to change old habits or do anything that takes you out of your comfort zone, your mind goes on high alert like a bodyguard and tries to distract you or pull you back to the old ways of behaving because doing something new or different is unfamiliar. Unfamiliarity to the mind means unsafe. It tries to stop you doing unfamiliar things by creating fearful thoughts, distracting you with something pleasurable like snacking or social media, or even tidying the sock drawer can seem more appealing than pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone!
Start changing your self-talk around doing new or uncomfortable things. If you say “I hate selling” then you are instructing your mind to get you away from it because it’s painful or dangerous!
Start talking to yourself as if you were an elite athlete. If they told themselves they hated getting up early to train or pushing their bodies to the limit, they too would self-sabotage and never win. Tell yourself you love selling, being visible, or even going to the gym at 6am!
You need to convince your mind that what you do is pleasurable in order to stop self-sabotage and this needs to be repetitive and made a habit for it to become your new familiar.
If overwhelm sets in, you can use coping strategies. For instance, if the thought of speaking in public to grow your brand makes you anxious, start using the 4, 7, 8 Breathing Technique which calms your body and helps to interrupt the thoughts which can lead to self-sabotage.
To practise this breathing technique:
- Step 1 – Breathe in for the count of 4
- Step 2 – Hold for the count of 7
- Step 3 – Breathe out for the count of 8
Repeat until you feel calm and focused.
Stepping outside of your comfort zone is the key to supercharging your business success and by changing your self-talk and telling yourself you CAN do it to override the negative thoughts, you can avoid self sabotage and empower yourself.
Emma Gosling is an Advanced Transformation Therapist, Mindset Coach and Clinical Hypnotherapist. She specialises in helping ambitious entrepreneurs live their best life by quickly removing their limiting beliefs so they can have the confidence and self-belief to take their business to the next level without fear of judgement or failure.